Relationship during pregnancy – why it can struggle and how to reconnect

When pregnancy joy meets relationship challenges

Pregnancy is often described as a time of happiness and anticipation – but for many couples, it can bring new challenges. Arguments, irritations and misunderstandings are common, and it can feel confusing when everything “should” be joyful.

Why does pregnancy affect relationships?

Carrying a baby brings major changes. New demands, expectations and emotions can strain the bond between you and your partner. As the pregnant one, you may feel more vulnerable, while your partner may be unsure about their role. This is completely normal – pregnancy reshapes the dynamics of your relationship.

Common causes of conflict

• Criticism of habits: You may often say, “when the baby comes, you won’t be able to…” and become more critical of your partner’s behaviour.
• Jealousy and insecurity: Body changes can trigger doubts about attraction and love. Meanwhile, phones or other distractions may create unnecessary mistrust.
• Pressure to perform: If you’re used to high achievement, it can be frustrating when your body sets limits – irritation can spill over into the relationship.
• Less energy: Fatigue, physical changes and reduced desire can make it harder to meet each other’s needs.

Read also: How to maintain intimacy during pregnancy

Your partner is affected too

The non-pregnant partner may also feel worried, stressed or insecure. With focus on the pregnant person, they might feel excluded or unprepared for the emotions that arise. It’s important that both partners have space to share how they’re feeling.

How to strengthen your relationship

• Talk openly: Share thoughts, worries and feelings. This reduces misunderstandings and builds closeness.
• Allow all feelings: Uncertainty, anxiety and even cold feet are common. What matters is how you handle them together.
• Lower expectations: Accept that pregnancy affects energy and mood – it’s okay not to be your “best self” all the time.
• Seek support: If challenges feel overwhelming, don’t hesitate to ask for help. Support is available through healthcare services and professional counsellors.