Relationship during pregnancy – why it can get rocky and how to reconnect

When pregnancy joy meets relationship struggles

Pregnancy is often portrayed as a time of joy and excitement – but for many couples, it also brings challenges. Arguments, irritability, and misunderstandings are common, and it can feel confusing when everything “should” be wonderful.

Why pregnancy affects relationships

Expecting a baby brings big changes. New demands, expectations, and emotions can put stress on your relationship. As the pregnant partner, you might feel more vulnerable, while the other partner may feel unsure of their role. This is normal – pregnancy often shifts how couples relate to each other.

Common reasons for conflict

• Criticism of habits: You might find yourself saying, “once the baby comes, you won’t be able to…” and become more critical of your partner’s routines.
• Jealousy and insecurity: Body changes can raise questions about attractiveness and love. At the same time, phones or outside attention can fuel unnecessary doubts.
• Performance pressure: If you’re used to achieving a lot, it can be frustrating when your body sets limits – and that frustration can spill into the relationship.
• Low energy: Fatigue, physical changes, and a lower sex drive can make it harder to meet each other’s needs.

Also read: How to keep intimacy alive during pregnancy

Your partner feels it too

The non-pregnant partner may also experience worry, stress, or insecurity. When the focus is on the pregnant partner, the other might feel left out or unprepared for the emotions that surface. It’s important that both partners get space to talk about how they’re doing.

How to keep your relationship strong

• Communicate openly: Share your thoughts, worries, and feelings. This helps prevent misunderstandings and builds closeness.
• Accept all feelings: Uncertainty, fear, or even cold feet are common. What matters is how you handle them together.
• Lower expectations: Accept that pregnancy affects mood and energy – it’s okay not to be your “best self” every day.
• Get support: If things feel especially difficult, don’t hesitate to ask for help. Support is available through healthcare providers and professional counsellors.