Sex during pregnancy – how to keep desire and closeness alive

1. Hormones and the body – why desire can fluctuate

Pregnancy brings big hormonal changes that can affect sexual desire in different ways. Increased blood flow to the genital area can make you more sensitive and sometimes increase sexual pleasure. At the same time, fatigue, nausea, or a growing belly can make sex less appealing. All feelings are normal and can vary day by day.

2. Common feelings for you and your partner

Sex can feel different for both of you. You might feel closer, or you might feel uncertain about body changes. It’s completely normal for needs and desires not to match. Talk openly about what feels good and what you want – it strengthens intimacy and your relationship.

3. Safety and physical comfort – what’s safe?

Many worry that sex could hurt the baby. In reality, the baby is well protected in the womb, and sex during a normal pregnancy is safe. Some physical limitations might occur, for example:

• A growing belly making some positions uncomfortable
• Tender or swollen breasts and genitals
• Fatigue or pregnancy aches

Comfort tips:

• Use pillows under your belly or back
• Try side-lying or other positions that don’t put pressure on your belly
• Go slowly and adjust to how you feel

4. Myths about sex during pregnancy

There are many myths that can create worry:

• “Sex can hurt the baby” – false, the baby is protected
• “It can trigger labor” – partly true late in pregnancy, but rarely dangerous
• “Pregnant people shouldn’t have sex” – completely false, sex is usually safe and enjoyable

Knowing what’s true can make sex more relaxed and pleasurable.

5. Tips for playful and enjoyable sex

Ways to keep intimacy and pleasure alive during pregnancy:

• Try new positions: Side-lying, from behind, or with support under your belly can make sex more comfortable
• Communicate openly: Ask what feels good, what you want to try, or what to avoid
• Playful touch: Massage, kisses, and caresses create closeness even if penetration isn’t comfortable
• Take your time with foreplay: Hormones and fatigue often make slow, gentle foreplay extra important
• Be flexible: Desire and energy can fluctuate. Some days sex might not happen – and that’s perfectly fine

6. When intimacy isn’t about sex

Remember: closeness doesn’t always mean sex. Hugs, massage, and skin-to-skin contact can strengthen your relationship and intimacy just as much. It’s also a way to keep passion alive throughout pregnancy.