Sex during pregnancy – how to maintain desire and closeness

1. Hormones and the body – why desire can fluctuate

Pregnancy brings major hormonal changes that can affect sexual desire in different ways. Increased blood flow to the genital area can make you more sensitive and sometimes increase sexual pleasure. At the same time, tiredness, nausea, or a growing bump can make sex less appealing. All feelings are normal and may vary from day to day.

2. Common feelings for you and your partner

Sex can feel different for both of you. You might feel closer, or perhaps unsure about body changes. It’s completely normal for needs and desires not to match. Talk openly about what feels good and what you want – it strengthens intimacy and your relationship.

3. Safety and physical comfort – what’s safe?

Many worry that sex could harm the baby. In fact, the fetus is well protected in the womb, and sex during a normal pregnancy is safe. Some physical limitations may occur, for example:

• A growing belly making some positions uncomfortable
• Tender or swollen breasts and genitals
• Fatigue or pregnancy-related aches

Comfort tips:

• Use pillows under your bump or back
• Try side-lying or other positions that don’t put pressure on your belly
• Go slowly and adjust the pace to how you feel

4. Myths about sex during pregnancy

There are many myths that can cause anxiety:

• “Sex can harm the baby” – false, the fetus is protected
• “It can trigger labour” – partially true late in pregnancy, but rarely dangerous
• “Pregnant people shouldn’t have sex” – completely false, sex is usually safe and enjoyable

Knowing what’s true can make sex more relaxed and pleasurable.

5. Tips for playful and enjoyable sex

Ways to maintain intimacy and pleasure during pregnancy:

• Explore new positions: Side-lying, from behind, or with support under your bump can make sex more comfortable
• Communicate openly: Ask what feels good, what you want to try, or what to avoid
• Playful touch: Massage, kisses, and caresses can create closeness even if penetration isn’t comfortable
• Take time for foreplay: Hormones and fatigue often make slow, gentle foreplay extra important
• Be flexible: Desire and energy fluctuate. Some days sex might not happen – that’s completely fine

6. When intimacy isn’t about sex

Remember: closeness doesn’t always mean sex. Hugs, massage, and skin-to-skin contact can strengthen your relationship and intimacy just as much. It’s also a way to keep passion alive throughout pregnancy.