We know that as a co-parent, you have a lot on your mind. A lot. Here’s some help to guide you along the way.

Many co-parents ask if they have to accompany their pregnant partner to the midwife appointments, believing that the discussions would only focus on the pregnant woman and the baby. Of course, it’s not mandatory, but at the visit, you have a golden opportunity to learn more that’ll be useful later on in the pregnancy. Accompany your partner, ask questions, prepare yourself, and read up on information.

Something that many co-parents worry about is the actual delivery. Perhaps it’s a fear of blood? Or to see your partner in pain? Your feelings need to be taken seriously as well; dare to talk about them, both with each other and also with your midwife. Remember, nobody benefits from staying silent. But if you notice that the fear takes over a little too much, you can get help, a so-called doula (a woman with lots of experience with childbirth) could be of support for both of you.

”I don’t know if I want to be a parent?”

It’s not uncommon to have mixed emotions, and if you find it hard to talk about, or if you are afraid to be misinterpreted, talk to a family therapist. Remember, you don’t become a parent overnight; it’s a nine-month-long process in which your feelings, your relationship, and everything else are more or less ”all over the place”.